Anonymous asked: Do you think the guys you meet at clubs really aren't looking for a relationship and that a lot of the guys there don't go to uni? I find going to campus events, most not involving alcohol, is where I meet intelligent guys who want to get to know me better and date me and who I can have decent conversations with.
I don’t really meet guys at clubs. In general I have little interest in talking to strangers. But yes I doubt many of them are looking for relationships but that’s fine by me because I’m not either and if I was I wouldn’t be looking for one with them. I don’t know if they go to uni or not but the people I go out with do so I’d assume that a lot of them also do. There’s nothing wrong with not going to uni anyway.
The main guys I talked about in my last post weren’t “guys that I met at clubs“ anyway. The one who wanted to “get amongst me” (what does that even mean??) is a friend of a friend who I’ve met a few times before, and the one who I kissed and went on a date with I’ve known since I was 10.
Honestly, the thought of going to a campus event without alcohol makes me shudder. Even just the words “campus event” makes me screw up my face a little. “Campus” ugh. “Event” gross.
I think you’ve misinterpreted me. I don’t have a problem with not meeting intelligent guys who want to date me. Obviously that’s no problem because I’m hella eligible and if they didn’t want to date me it’d be their problem not mine. The issue is that I have no interested in anyone even though I want to. Not that that’s really “an issue”, it’s just apathy. It’s just boring.
Also I just want to say to you and to the last anon who messaged me about making time to make a plan blah blah, that while I think your intentions are really nice and thoughtful or whatever, it is really strange to be given advice that you didn’t ask for from someone who’s identity you don’t know. I don’t often reply to messages like that because I’m too busy internally screaming “YOU DON’T KNOW ME, YOU DON’T KNOW MY LIFE”. So thank you for the message I do appreciate where it’s coming from, but trying to simplify and solve my life really does come across as patronising.
I’m okay, you know. Like, I’m working it out for myself and I’m doing okay.